One of the things Spartan Races teach you is a concept called "obstacle immunity". The heart of this concept is, you voluntarily make yourself unbelievably uncomfortable a few good times and all of a sudden, your scale of what matters and doesn't matter changes dramatically.
For example, like most Spartans, I f^cking hate the Bucket Brigade. You fill a 5 gal. Home Depot bucket with pebbles and carry it around, likely up and down some kind of hill. You drop the bucket, you have to sit there and scoop them all up back into the bucket or do the burpee penalty. You put the bucket down, you have to pick that thing back up. If the way you are carrying the bucket does not feel comfortable, then figure out a solution fast because with every passing second that bucket seemingly gets heavier and heavier. Oh and for me being roughly 105lbs even, a 40lb bucket is nearly 40% of my total bodyweight which is SUUUPER FUN! Not.
I have had some pretty wild thoughts while carrying that bucket from hell, but the overall thoughts echoing through your mind are probably some of these or similar:
"Why did I sign up for this?"
"What idiot told me this was going to be fun? When does the fun start?"
"I regret a lot of things, but none more than signing that damned Spartan waiver"
"F^ck this f^cking sucks holy shit."
"When I get down off this hill I swear to god I will never complain about regular day to day shit again"
This last thought is one of the key factors of obstacle immunity. When you have been as uncomfortable as Spartans have been, some things just aren't big enough to register anymore. For example, after I race, I am as calm as a Hindu cow, so to speak. I am unaffected by traffic, scheduling issues, messy weight racks at the gym – basically anything that would normally have annoyed me before I started racing isn't big enough to matter anymore. So what there's someone blocking me in traffic, it’s not a bucket of rocks I have to carry up a hill. So what your boyfriend is being a pain in the ass, he's not a bucket of rocks either. You hair's not cooperating, you ran out of milk, whatever it is that used to register at a 5/10 on the annoyance scale is barely clocking in at a 1 when you have obstacle immunity.
I encourage you to try a Spartan Race and see what obstacle immunity is like. It's a completely different kind of peace and it really helps you manage what is and isn't a priority in life.
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