Not everyone is going to agree with this post, but I absolutely hate when people call smaller statured people "Skinny Minnie", primarily because if I started calling heavy people "Biggie Big" I would be such an asshole.
I am 5'8" and about 107lbs most days. I am at first glance, what you would call "skinny". I hate my bird cage chest and I hate how pointy I look sometimes, but overall I'm pretty ok with how I look and feel. I may be almost tall, but I do not take up much mass.
I have been a slight statured person for pretty much my whole life. I have spent 23 years being called "skinny", "twiggy", "tiny", "small", "bony", "underweight", and I'm pretty sure if I am told that I can hula hoop with a Cheerio one more time, I will become murderous. And to everyone who ever asked me "Do you even eat?" The answer is a very short YEAH.
But, as tired as I am of hearing these things directed at me, I am more tired of not feeling comfortable responding in kind. I am afraid of what might happen to ME if I tell someone, "You know what, I don't really like that you called me skinny. Can you please stop?" No, I don't think anything physically will happen to me. I do on the other hand think that the person who said it or bystanders would say things like, "Why are you even complaining?" And "That's a compliment you should be grateful", or worse "A lot of people would kill to look like you."
I think a lot of people fail to realize that these kinds of comments are offensive and hurtful to some. I think people also fail to realize that they wouldn't dare make the same kinds of comments to someone they considered heavy (which FYI means you shouldn't be saying it to either group). I also think that one of the biggest reasons people say this to slender people is because we have all been conditioned to believe that if you're thin you'll be better off, happier, more loved, more rich, whatever – so therefore I shouldn't be complaining about how comments make me feel what with all my money and boyfriends and joy. Fuck off with that belief, please.
I can tell you it's really hard to not back down when I challenge comments like this. I first stood my ground a few months ago when a coworker wouldn't stop talking about how little I am, and it was super nerve wracking. Deciding to stand up for myself has meant I've made some mountains out of molehills, but it also means that I have had the opportunity to educate a few people. Some people didn't know that I have celiac disease, so they learned that. Some people didn't know that it would even offend me, and promptly apologized and said they never would have thought about it from my perspective. Some have done exactly what I feared and told me to get over myself and I should be grateful for the compliment, and I have unfortunately backed off instead of holding my ground.
The moral of the story is, if someone says something about your appearance that you don't like, you are absolutely allowed to speak up for yourself.
The moral of the story is, if someone says something about your appearance that you don't like, you are absolutely allowed to speak up for yourself. I don’t care if they call you skinny, fat, frizzy, poor, or what – you are allowed to correct them. If someone calls you something and you don't like that, offer them a new adjective they can use instead. If it keeps happening, tell them that you don't appreciate it or that they're being a dick, whatever you're comfortable with. Even family – they need to be told they're being mean too. Do not let people rampantly make you uncomfortable, either stand up for yourself or continue to be a part of the problem that hurts you. And remember not to be a hypocrite!!
Good luck everyone, I think you're just dandy the way you are.